Yes, that’s it. I’m starting a Clit Club!
Membership is actually quite easy to obtain – you gain access by putting women’s pleasure on the agenda. Welcome to the Club!
This is not in any way to diminish the importance of pleasure for other genders, but please let us acknowledge that everyone on this planet (no matter our sexual orientation or gender identity) came through (or came very close to going through) a vagina. And damn, those vaginas deserve a reward!
Although a woman’s body creates and ushers in life, there stills seems to be secrecy and shame around this creative essence and divine feminine power. How can we raise our children and teach them about sexuality in a positive, loving, and inclusive and joyful way if we still hang on to shame about the female body? Let’s end that taboo and encourage cliteracy.
As Regena Thomashauer says in her book Pussy, A Reclamation, “Women have never been encouraged to look or feel or touch or experiment or learn anything about ourselves… We make sure our kids have driver’s ed before we let them sit behind the wheel of a car, but we don’t hear too much about moms teaching their daughters how to self-pleasure. Nor do we hear about dads teaching their sons how to handle a pussy. If we did hear of such a thing, it would likely register as horrifying.”
Instead of coming at it (literally) from a place of scarcity and ignorance, let us bring in praise and appreciation for the pussy. Let us explore pleasure, sensuality, sex and orgasm. This means getting to know the folds and the soft inner flesh and, of course, it means acknowledging and honouring the grande dame of pleasure, the centrepiece – the clitoris.
In a culture that has focused on the importance of reproduction to the detriment of enjoyment, the clitoris for too long lay forgotten. The public and medical professionals alike felt embarrassed to discuss and pay closer attention to it. But times they are a-changing, and women are reclaiming their pussy’s right to pleasure.
So, let’s talk about the clit. She has an astounding 8000 nerve endings – more than anywhere else in the human body. And the range of sensation is limitless. So, make sure that orgasms are not restricted to a pleasant “crotch sneeze”, but allow for grandeur of the greatest and on the most expansive scale. All orgasm is cliterally centred – even vaginal orgasms result from the stimulation of the clitoral root through the vaginal walls.
What we see of the clit, however, is only the tip of the iceberg. The glans clitoris, which is the visible part, accounts for a fifth or less of the entire organ. In its entirety, the clitoris can be up to 7cm and is shaped much like a wishbone (unsurprisingly for all the wishes invested in it). Like the penis, the clitoris is made of erectile tissue and fills with blood during arousal. When rubbed into the vulva and around and over the clit, Clitoria CBD Arousal Oil adds to the sensitivity. As orgasm is reached, the clit engorges even more and doesn’t (like the penis) soften after orgasm, which means that clit owners can have multiple orgasms. As the peaks progress, so does the sensitivity. For this reason, it is important to keep clits happy with a gentle touch and if there’s not enough natural fluid, then adding some more Clitoria is a good choice.
Finally, it’s important to note that clitoral arousal changes according to the time of the month, stress levels and even hydration and nutrition levels. Some women need more time and find that they need 45 minutes of clitoral stimulation before they’re aroused for intercourse. So gentle exploration and stroking, curiosity and patience are your best friends when seeking pleasure. Great sex is all about attunement – attuning to your partner, but most importantly, women have to attune to themselves!
The first week in May is International Clitoris Awareness Week. May every May and every day be one of pleasure for all women and clit owners!